Here is the weird part, before i asked for divorce she acts careless and show almost every sign of this article, but when i tell her i can’t take it anymore and that i want divorce, she promised to fix all her mistakes
Take this time to determine if you think it is acceptable for her to continue these actions. Determine if you can forgive her for her previous actions. Take this time to become closer to your friends and family. Speak directly and mixxxer profiles honestly with her about your thoughts and feelings. Best of luck, Njabu!
i have been married for 3 years now, we were together since high school( we were together 4 years before marriage). our relationship was always difficult, we loved each other to much, but her parents tried their best to separate us, especially her father, he was taking her money, he didn’t like someone taking his monthly paycheck, and he wanted to marry his girl to a rich guy and I wasn’t that guy
in our 4 years of dating we breakup more than 6 times each time for 2 or 3 months, the reasons for our breakups were always about her parents or some details about her parents she hided from me, but each time we came back for each other,(both of us never dated any one new between our break up) Until we decided to get married of course without the acceptance of her parents.
first year after marriage we had rough times especially the first 4 months, when they told us that her father had cancer and that he doesn’t have much time to live, of course i told my wife that we need to end the problem with her parents and started seeing them, our problems started to grow back, her father died, i tried my best to support my wife but even after his death our problems and conflicts were unbearable, she seems careless to where our relationship is going she even wanted to leave home many times, her actions showed me that she didn’t appreciate anything that i do for her or for our relationship, at the time i thought maybe the things that’s happening around us are too much for her to take, after many attempts from my side with no results i ended up frustrated, devastated, and i asked for divorce,
so at the end i asked her to leave, and started the divorce process, which in my country takes more than 2 years, and more than 50 000$ to accomplish.
i never stopped loving her, during the 9 months apart i couldn’t forget her tears while she was leaving and i couldn’t be with anyone new, my heart was broken and so was my brain.
she contacted me after 9 month of separation, i missed her and i wanted to believe that maybe this time we could finally have the life together we always dreamed about,
i thought maybe the stress is gone now she understand better her mind is clear so i accepted to stop the divorce process and we decided to get back together after clearing things up between us (what i mean by that is that we discussed in almost every aspect what’s acceptable and what’s not and how to avoid conflicts and miss understanding).
The weird part is that I’m not a stupid person but i do believe what she promises every time and she keep breaking her promises each time
it has been one year now we fight almost 3 times per week each time for the same reasons, and each time her actions shows she don’t care.